Anger

Here is a lovely poem by a blogger, Don Iannone:

Why does your voice bark anger at the world
while sitting in golden morning sunlight?
What atrocities have your eyes witnessed,
haunting your soul,
causing your every utterance to cloud the sun,
foment the peace lingering in the air, and
rape fledgling flowers of their innocence?
If I could take it all away, I would,
leaving just the hushing waves washing over you,
carrying your hurt and anger far out to sea.
If I could, I’d kiss away the bark from your lips,
leaving only a sweet trusting smile lasting a lifetime.






William Blake has brought the effects of anger beautifully in his poem The Poison Tree thus:


I was angry with my friend: 
I told my wrath, my wrath did end. 
I was angry with my foe; 
I told it not, my wrath did grow. 
And I water'd it in fears, 
Night & morning with my tears; 
And I sunned it with my smiles 
And with soft deceitful wiles. 
And it grew both day and night, 
Till it bore an apple bright; 
And my foe beheld it shine, 
And he knew that it was mine, And into my garden stole 
When the night had veil'd the pole: 
In the morning glad I see 
My foe outstretch'd beneath the tree!

Introspection

With robust optimism and positive attitude, anyone can solve their problems. Take your failures (personal or professional) as an opportunity to learn. Be very sincere in your approach. Introspection after failure is the fastest teacher, provided it must be done sincerely and in a very detached manner. Any self –justifying exercise which blames others or events does not teach you anything, except for the fact that you are just defending yourself.

After that introspection, when you have reached your conclusions, then all you need to do is just “let go” because if you hold on to your failures and mistakes it will create a nagging pain and discomfort in your heart. Mistakes done by you will bring guilt while mistakes done by others will cause anger.

I had read somewhere that after every failure on the field Sachin Tendulkar goes to the dressing room and refuses to come out till he has exorcised the demon within (that demon might be guilt, frustration etc).

Inspiration from within is what will take you through thick and thin. Keep yourself motivated. Make small goals to achieve a desired result. The power & depth of your inner strength very often defines the success you achieve outside.

Victory is achieved easily in either of these two situations

(A)   you accept people & situations as they are totally ,or,

(B)   You give a 100% fight back or provide a very very strong resistance.

Anywhere in between these two extremes & your mind will be in a jeopardized state!

Confrontations!

Confrontation is angry disagreement and when we confront others it often leads to angry denials and rage and vice versa.

As it is obvious in a confrontation…. that there are two opposite interpretations to the same situation …but then why is anger associated with it? Well the reason is that both the parties feel victimized by the other and hence go through the emotions of self righteousness and self pity which gives rise to anger.

How to come out of this crisis then?

Well, obviously after a confrontation there is a point of deadlock achieved. To come out of this a very wise mediator is needed who can explain to both the aggrieved parties that both of them have to co-exist or this anger will kill them one day and have to work out an amicable situation where there is an environment set for peaceful co-existence. And all this has to be done in such a way that nobody is humiliated and hurt by the peace process. And at the same time it is also important for both the warring parties to understand that in order to move forward in life you have got to accept multiple points of view and not to get stuck because asserting your self righteousness over the other is just not going to help in the long run.Adopting a confrontationist attitude is just so futile.
Blaming someone is a sign of weakness.No one is a failure until he/she starts blaming someone else !

Interesting facts about Lord Krishna

Krishna’s birth on Ashtami signifies his mastery of both the spiritual and material worlds. He is a great teacher and a spiritual inspiration as well as the consummate politician. On one hand, he is Yogeshwara (the Lord of Yogas — the state to which every yogi aspires) while on the other, he is a mischievous thief.
The unique quality of Krishna is that he is at once more pious than the saints and yet a thorough mischief-monger! His behaviour is a perfect balance of the extremes — perhaps this is why the personality of Krishna is so difficult to fathom. Krishna is both Dwarkadheesh and Yogeshwar.
Krishna’s teachings are most relevant to our times in the sense that they neither let you get lost in material pursuits nor make you completely withdrawn. They rekindle your life, from being a burnt-out and stressed personality to a more centred and dynamic one. Krishna teaches us devotion with skill. To celebrate Gokulashtami is to imbibe extremely opposite yet compatible qualities and manifest them in your own life.

When Lord Krishna sat in Samadhi that is when he recited the Gita. After the war, once Arjuna asks him that I have forgotten the beautiful knowledge that you gave me, at that time there was a lot of crowd and so much commotion on the war field and I didn’t listen to you properly. Please tell me again what you said. Then Krishna replied," No, I can’t tell you now, at that time I was in samadhi , so I made you sit and whatever came to me I told you at that time, now I cannot again tell you again".

So whatever Lord Krishna said was not a person saying this knowledge but the universe speaking. These messages came from the Shiva tattva, the atma tattva. He said, ’I am the sun, I am the rain, truth and untruth, everything is me.’ This is very deep knowledge.

If you see everything is made from one tattva, from atoms. What is your mother made of, father made of? Everyone’s body is made from the same thing, from food grains. Food grains are consumed and the body is developed, whoever eats, they all grow and the body is made from that. So everyone is made from one substance, one power and one energy.

That is the atma that is you and that is me and everything is made of this universal energy and this is what today’s scientist also say. Those who study quantum physics this is what they say - that the whole world is made up of one energy. Earlier it was said that there were different protons, electrons functioning and making things work but now they say it is all one energy, everything is a wave functions. What we consider physical things are not there in reality, it is all just energy and this is what Lord Krishna has said many years ago in the Bhagavad Gita.

(ज्ञान पत्र )


गुरु और शिक्षक 


शिक्षक आपके विकास की जिम्मेदारी लेते हैं|
गुरु आपको आपके स्वयं के विकास के लिए जिम्मेदार बनाते हैं|

शिक्षक आपको वह सब देते हैं जो आपको जरुरत है और आपके पास नहीं है|
गुरु आपसे वह सब ले लेते हैं जो आपके पास है और आपको नहीं चाहिए|

शिक्षक आपके सवालों के जवाब देते हैं|
गुरु आपके उत्तरों पर सवाल करते हैं|

शिक्षक आपको उलझनों से बाहर निकालते हैं|
गुरु उलझनों को खत्म कर देते हैं|

शिक्षक को छात्र से आज्ञाकारी होने और अनुशाषित होने की चाहत होती है|
गुरु को अपने अनुयायी से विश्वास और विनम्रता की चाहत होती है|

शिक्षक आपको बाहरी दुनिया की यात्रा के लिए तैयार करते हैं|
गुरु आपकी शंकाओं और दुविधाओं का निवारण करके आपके मन को खाली करते हुए आपको आतंरिक यात्रा के लिए तैयार करते हैं|

शिक्षक आपके मार्गदर्शक हैं|
गुरु आपके मार्ग के दिशा चिन्ह हैं|

शिक्षक आपको सफलता की सड़क पर भेज देते हैं|
गुरु आपको स्वतंत्रता के मार्ग पर भेज देते हैं|

शिक्षक आपको दुनिया और उसकी प्रकृति का ज्ञान देते हैं|
गुरु आपको आपकी स्वयं की प्रकृति का ज्ञान देते हैं|

एक शिक्षक आपको दुनिया में रहन सहन का ज्ञान देते हैं|
एक गुरु आपको दुनिया में अपने आप के आकलन का ज्ञान देते हैं|

शिक्षक आपको ज्ञान देकर आपके अहं को बढ़ावा देते हैं|
गुरु आपके ज्ञान को लेकर आपके अहं को खत्म कर देते हैं|

शिक्षक आपको निर्देश देते हैं|
गुरु आपका निर्माण करते हैं|

शिक्षक आपके दिमाग को पैना बनाते हैं|
गुरु आपके दिमाग को खोल देते हैं|

शिक्षक आपको समृद्धि का रास्ता दिखाते हैं|
गुरु आपको शांति का रास्ता दिखाते हैं|

शिक्षक आपके दिमाग पर प्रभाव डालते हैं|
गुरु आपकी आत्मा पर प्रभाव डालते हैं|

शिक्षक आपको ज्ञान देते हैं|
गुरु आपको बुद्धिमान बनाते हैं|

शिक्षक आपको परिपक्व बनाते हैं|
गुरु आपको आपकी मासूमियत लौटाते हैं|

शिक्षक आपको समस्याओं का हल करने के लिए निर्देश देते हैं|
गुरु आपको मुद्दों को सुलझाने का रास्ता दिखाते हैं|

शिक्षक एक व्यवस्थित विचारक होते हैं|
गुरु आपके पार्श्विक विचारक होते हैं|

शिक्षक आपको छड़ी से दण्डित करते हैं|
गुरु आपको करुणा से सजा देते हैं|

एक शिक्षक अपने शिष्य के लिए उसके पिता के समान हैं|
एक गुरु अपने शिष्य के लिए उसकी माता के समान हैं|

शिक्षक आपको मिल जायेंगे|
परन्तु एक गुरु को आपको ढूंढकर अपनाने की आवश्यकता है|

शिक्षक आपको ऊँगली पकड़कर मार्ग पर चलना सिखाते हैं|
गुरु आपको उदाहरणों के द्वारा आपका मार्गदर्शन करते हैं|

जब आप स्नातक हो जाते हो तब शिक्षक का काम खत्म हो जाता है|
जब आप उत्सव मनाना सीख जाते हो तब गुरु का काम खत्म हो जाता है|

जब पाठ्यक्रम खत्म हो जाता है तब आप शिक्षक के प्रति आभारी होते हैं|
जब प्रवचन खत्म होते हैं तब हम गुरु के प्रति कृतज्ञ होतें हैं|

(Adopted from Art of Living )

Awesome Vidya !

Here is a link to an article which entails the story of the hardships and struggle faced by Vidya Balan(woman of the moment) on her way up to the superstardom.

http://www.telegraphindia.com/1100725/jsp/7days/story_12723277.jsp

Thrilling 30s !

After completing three decades of a thrilling existence in this planet …I am celebrating my womanhood like never before ….each day bringing with it many more adventures ,pleasant and not so pleasant lessons …I am so happy …..…everything is so perfect deep down .....…imperfections are only superficial ….have finally realized the power of letting go and embracing whatever life is offering me at this very moment .
Spirituality has taken my life on to a very different level altogether... it has provided me a platform to cushion the fall caused by inevitable stresses of modern life and has also broadened my view so as to accommodate my as well as others's opinions,mistakes,rigidity and imperfections.
Life is lived TODAY not in YESTERDAYS & TOMORROWS !

DECISIONS

"Decision comes only when there is confusion.When there is no confusion ,there is no decision.If there is a piece of wood and a biscuit on your desk ,do you decide which one to eat?
A decision is always about choice and choice is always confusing.So all decision makers are confused.Are you confused,decided or happy?When you are confused there is no freedom. "-HH Sri Sri Ravi shankar ji


At the moment of decision-making, decisions are not right or wrong. They are right or wrong only in hindsight.Decisions are tough or simple only to the observer.They are the decisions that need to be taken by the person in the hot seat.Tough or simple.Good or bad.It reveals more about the inner strength of the person instead of arrogance . Decisions do not exist in isolation. They are perceived differently by different people. Each one perceives it from his or her own point of view. And this can be very tricky. For what may be seen as good by one can be seen as terrible by many, a personal affront even if that is not the issue. A tiny event can trigger a crisis.
Jairam was the Factory Superintendent of a garment manufacturing unit.
One day a worker had a terrible accident in the factory premises because of the faulty working of a new machinery installed recently.
Jairam took the decision to take the injured worker to a nearby Government Hospital rather than a private clinic as he thought delay in medical attention could cost the worker his life
Unfortunately the worker lost one of his limbs and his family and other workers blamed Jairam for it as they thought that he didn’t bother to get the worker admitted to a place with better medical facilities.
Is Jairam really to be blamed?

Everyone has their own side of the story to tell.How many of us make the effort to listen ?

Bade acche lagte hai!

Just love the serial "Bade Acche lagte hain "on Sony Tv ...a pure,matured,lovely romance....brings tears to my eyes whenever I watch it :)

Interesting Quotes

A lost battle is a battle one thinks one has lost.

Everything has been figured out, except how to live.

Hell is other people.

I do not believe in God; his existence has been disproved by Science. But in the concentration camp, I learned to believe in men.

If a victory is told in detail, one can no longer distinguish it from a defeat.

Life has no meaning the moment you loose the illusion of being eternal.

Man is condemned to be free; because once thrown into the world, he is responsible for everything he does.

No finite point has meaning without an infinite reference point.

We do not judge the people we love.

It is never too late to ask yourself, “ Am I ready to change the life I am living? Am I ready to change within?” Even if a single day in your life is the same as the day before, it surely is a pity. At every moment and with each new breath, one should be renewed and renewed again. There is only one-way to be born into a new life: to die before death.
"If you could get rid of yourself just once, the secret of secrets would open to you.
The face of the unknown, hidden beyond the universe would appear on the mirror of your perception."

(Rumi)

An article by Payal Gidwani Tiwari

Yoga is not slow and boring .You can use Asanas and Kriyas to achieve weight loss. People often think that Yoga is only meditation or only Spirituality. Yoga is definitely a path of spirituality but it works first on the physical body. It is a great tool for weight loss and finally when you are happy with your physical body, you un-fog your mind and get into the social & spiritual aspects of yoga.

Yoga teaches five aspects of fitness- endurance, strength, stamina, agility & body composition. You may not be fat but you may lack flexibility.

It is hard to be unhealthy once you start yoga –Saif Ali Khan

Yoga is the best kind of exercise.
Rani & Kareena were both hard core gym people .In fact Bebo went to gym for eight years before she joined Yoga and after that she hasn’t been back to a gym ever.
One thing I recommend very strongly is the Surya Namaskar.Its like a magic wand to keep you healthy. If you really want to work on yourself, start with five Surya Namaskar a day and then do as many as your body can take .It works on your weight, blood circulation, your entire system…so that your skin glows
-Payal Gidwani Tiwari.
(Adopted from an article published in a magazine by Payal Gidwani Tiwari)

Some Good Quotes!

"All is well. You did not come here to fix a broken world. The world is not broken.You came here to live a wonderful life. And if you can learn to relax a little and let it all in, you will begin to see the universe present you with all that you have asked for." - Esther Abraham-Hicks

Take the challenge: Whenever someone is nasty towards you, do something so nice that it takes them by surprise. - Sri Sri

"Your soul doesn't care what you do for a living - and when your life is over, neither will you. Your soul cares only about WHAT YOU ARE BEING while you're doing whatever you're doing .... “~ Neale Donald Walsch

I am where I am meant to be, doing what I am meant to be doing.. If I would have been meant to be doing something else, I would have been doing that! Life is unfolding exactly in accordance with The Plan! Let me just go with the flow .

"Anything that helps you become unconditionally happy and loving is what is called spirituality." ~ Sri Sri Ravi Shankar

The destruction, the true battle is between those who want a change in the world and those who does not want any change in the world.

All human wisdom is summed up in two words - wait and hope....

Don't be afraid to make mistakes. Be afraid of not learning from them.

To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you.
Life is AWESOME! Learn to Forgive, especially yourself.

" IF YOU ARE POSITIVE, THEN NOTHING IS NEGATIVE FOR YOU. If you are negative, then everything will be negative for you." Osho.~

Generally, we believe our memory is weak. But when we want to forget someone we care a lot about, we begin to realize how powerful our memory is....!

Everything comes to the one who thinks how she/he can contribute more to the society. - Sri Sri

Kabir Doha on Guru

Sab Dharti Kagaz Karu,
Lekhan Ban Raye.
Sath Samundra Ki syahi Karu
Guru Gun Likha Na Jaye


“Even if the whole earth is transformed into paper with all the big trees made into pens and if the entire water in the seven oceans are transformed into writing ink, even then the glories of the Guru cannot be written. So much is the greatness of the Guru.”

Dheere Dheere Re Mana, Dheere Sub Kutch Hoye
Mali Seenche So Ghara, Ritu Aaye Phal Hoye

धीरे धीरे रे मना, धीरे सब कुछ होए
माली सींचे सौ घङा ऋतु आऐ फल होए

Jab Tun Aaya Jagat Mein, Log Hanse Tu Roye
Aise Karni Na Kari, Pache Hanse Sab Koye
जब तुम आए जगत में लोग हंसे तुम रोए
ऐसी करनी ना करी पाछे हँसे सब कोए

Guru kumhar shish kumbh hai
Gadhi gadhi kadhe khot
Andar se de sahara
Bahar mare chot

गुरु कुcहार शीष कुंभ है गढ़ गढ़ काढ़े खोट
अंदर से दे सहारा बाहर मारे चोट

Yeh tan vish ki belri
Guru amrut ki khan
Sheesh diye bhi guru mile
To bhi sasta jaan

यह तन विष की बेलऱी ,गुरु अमृत की खान
शीष दिए भी गुरु मिले,तो भी सmता जान

Keeping Quiet

Came across this beautiful poem “KEEPING QUIET” by Pablo Neruda .It is about the necessity of quiet introspection and creating a feeling of mutual understanding among human beings in the hectic cycle of our life.I myself was in silence for 3 days last month and this poem aptly captures the essence of keeping quiet.

Keeping Quiet

Now we will count to twelve
and we will all keep still.

This one time upon the earth,
let's not speak any language,
let's stop for one second,
and not move our arms so much.

It would be a delicious moment,
without hurry, without locomotives,
all of us would be together
in a sudden uneasiness.

The fishermen in the cold sea
would do no harm to the whales
and the peasant gathering salt
would look at his torn hands.

Those who prepare green wars,
wars of gas, wars of fire,
victories without survivors,
would put on clean clothing
and would walk alongside their brothers
in the shade, without doing a thing.

What I want shouldn't be confused
with final inactivity:
life alone is what matters,
I want nothing to do with death.

If we weren't unanimous
about keeping our lives so much in motion,

if we could do nothing for once,
perhaps a great silence would
interrupt this sadness,
this never understanding ourselves
and threatening ourselves with death,
perhaps the earth is teaching us
when everything seems to be dead
and then everything is alive.

Now I will count to twelve
and you keep quiet and I'll go.

Some Touching Love Stories!

Sunshine and Memories

Debasis was my Sunshine. I called him that because he lit up my life for 32 years. We met in 1975 when I was just 21. He was six years older. I was an airhostess and he a marine engineer. Our backgrounds and attitudes were also as different as the sea and sky. I was a small-town girl from Darjeeling, short-tempered, with an anxious nature. He was from Calcutta, and calm and positive by temperament.
He pursued me in his quiet way, and I would get stacks of mail when he was away at sea. We got married in 1978, despite our parents’ apprehensions. I left my job to sail the world with him. Seated on deck, beneath the stars, we’d just listen to the waves. On full-moon nights it was sheer heaven. He gave up fishing from the ship
because of my Buddhist beliefs. Over the years, I learnt to speak Bengali while he picked up Nepali from me.
We wanted a daughter and even planned to name her after our first ship, but we remained childless. Yet, that drew us even closer. If he came across a pretty flower, he’d pick it for me—even from among weeds.
Debasis passed away in November 2007 after a brief illness. I have his old courtship letters. It still makes me laugh when I remember how I used to threaten to read them aloud, if he teased or irritated me! Those letters and memories are what I treasure the most.
Kala Gupta, Darjeeling


Taming of the Shrew

Our families had always been close and so, despite my initial hesitation, marrying Parikshet seemed the natural step to take. Little did I realize how things would turn out. All through the six months following our wedding in 1999, I didn’t get cards or chocolates, not even a candlelight dinner! My girlish dreams of romance were dashed to pieces. When I made him tea every morning, he would gulp it down with a fixed smile and the same words—“Thank you, it’s lovely”—until the day I vented my disillusionment to an old pal of his.
I was told that the one thing Parikshet loathed was tea!
Gradually, I realized what an understated but genuinely loving person he is. All these years I haven’t heard him raise his voice at anybody. And when I had a tumour and couldn’t conceive a child, it was Parikshet’s silent acceptance that gave me the strength to face the situation.
I’ve grown up. It is ironic how we always hear the loud and obvious and fail to notice the unassuming and quiet; how we love reading sensational stuff but find decent matters uninteresting. If it weren’t for my
husband I’d, too, miss the simpler, smaller joys of life. Thank you, Parikshet. You managed to tame your shrew without even trying!
Neha Srivastava, Gurgaon


Eye of the Beholder

What attracted me to Prasannakumar Wadiyar in college was his sensitive nature. His mother used to be ill then and I saw the pain in his eyes when he spoke about her. We got married in 1997. But soon afterwards, we were involved in a serious bus accident and I had fractures and bruises on an entire side of my face. Although Prasanna had a broken rib himself, he managed to get me to a hospital. I underwent a seven-hour operation—and all this even before our wedding photos arrived.
Relatives and friends, shocked at seeing the way I looked, began to worry about the future of our relationship. But not me, I knew Prasanna too well. I loved socializing, window-shopping and eating out, but now I didn’t want to show my scarred, discoloured face in public. But Prasanna held my hand firmly and took me to all the places I loved. When people stared, he only drew me closer. The years flew by and we became the parents of two lovely girls, who are now eleven and seven years old. I am a teacher at their school.
But things happen when you least expect it. Two days after our 12th wedding anniversary, in November 2009, Prasanna passed away following a fatal aneurysm. He was just 38.
After my accident, we did discuss cosmetic surgery but Prasanna insisted that I should do it only if I felt the need, and not to please him, because, he said, “I love you the way you are.” So I didn’t. My scars have faded with time. But, in all those years, not for a moment did my husband make me feel less beautiful, less attractive or less loved because of them.
Vasundhara Wadiyar, Mysore



(Adopted from Reader's Digest)

Lipatick on the Mirror!

In a certain private girls school in Brisbane was recently faced with a unique problem.
A number of 12-year-old girls were beginning to use lipstick and would put it on in the bathroom. That was fine, but after they put on their lipstick they would press their lips to the mirror leaving dozens of little lip prints.
Every night the maintenance man would remove them and the next day the girls would put them back.
Finally the principal decided that something had to be done. She called all the girls to the bathroom and met them there with the maintenance man.
She explained that all these lip prints were causing a major problem for the custodian who had to clean the mirrors every night (you can just imagine the yawns from the little princesses).
To demonstrate how difficult it had been to clean the mirrors, she asked the maintenance man to show the girls just how much effort was required.
He took out a long-handled squeegee, dipped it in the toilet, and cleaned the mirror with it!
No more lipstick ever happened on any of the mirrors.
This is the difference between teaching and educating!